In the session, Sriram (imaginary character) said, "I don't judge people. I just have standards for myself. I don't like to be a mediocre. I don't like failure !. But that doesn't mean, I judge others who fail. I don't say anything when a friend of mine fails." Therapists hear these lines from many clients … Continue reading Standards & Judgements – What are they and what do they do?
Anger is a emotion but not a decision!
What is the logical explanation of the quote ??? "Holding Onto Anger Is Like Drinking Poison and Expecting the Other Person to Die. -Buddha" When we get anger on someone, and there is connection, what does that mean? there can be two reasons (based on my practical observations) of anger. One, a person gets anger … Continue reading Anger is a emotion but not a decision!
Breaking the infinite loop: Its the person, but not situations!
Sita and Geeta: (They are imaginary characters in my story. I created these characters by merging stories and qualities of many characters including clients, relatives, friends, etc., that I have seen in my life. These characters do not represent any single individual) Seeta and Geeta are housewives. They feel disappointed about their life. They find … Continue reading Breaking the infinite loop: Its the person, but not situations!
Attacking the connections that exist between emotions, thoughts and body is a self destructive behavior!
My client Hema (imaginary) had been suffering from insomnia from few months. She cannot sleep in the nights. She kept on describing how difficult it is to manage. She feels tired and exhausted in the day time. But I figured out that there is something fishy in her description. She told me so many times … Continue reading Attacking the connections that exist between emotions, thoughts and body is a self destructive behavior!
Never compromise for anyone! Because when you compromise, you will start asking that person to give you something that can compensate what you lost for him/her!. You don’t like the fact that you have expectations and you will go into denial. Your stubbornness is less harmful to that person than your pressure/expectation/denial!
Jealous is a feeling where person feels that other person is occupying his / her place. Jealous can be dealt easily by understanding that place of every person is unique and place of one person cant be occupied by other person.
Stupid is not the one who doesn’t know something..Stupid is the one who doesn’t understand that there is need to know something!
A pinch of randomness! That is what can cure most of the neurotic mental health problems !
Until or unless we learn giving value to our own values, we cannot value others! Decision making is all about learning more and more about our values.
Humans can neither be owned nor lost! Humans can only be loved or hated! And both love and hate can maintain relationship of different natures, but of equal strength!