Standards & Judgements – What are they and what do they do?

In the session, Sriram (imaginary character) said, "I don't judge people. I just have standards for myself. I don't like to be a mediocre. I don't like failure !. But that doesn't mean, I judge others who fail. I don't say anything when a friend of mine fails." Therapists hear these lines from many clients … Continue reading Standards & Judgements – What are they and what do they do?

Breaking the infinite loop: Its the person, but not situations!

Sita and Geeta: (They are imaginary characters in my story. I created these characters by merging stories and qualities of many characters including clients, relatives, friends, etc., that I have seen in my life. These characters do not represent any single individual) Seeta and Geeta are housewives. They feel disappointed about their life. They find … Continue reading Breaking the infinite loop: Its the person, but not situations!

Never compromise for anyone! Because when you compromise,  you will start asking that person to give you something that can compensate what you lost for him/her!. You don’t like the fact that you have expectations and you will go into denial. Your stubbornness is less harmful to that person than your pressure/expectation/denial!

Jealous is a feeling where person feels that other person is occupying his / her place. Jealous can be dealt easily by understanding that place of every person is unique and place of one person cant be occupied by other person.

Life is complete in itself! It grows, feels, learns, experiences, unfolds, on its own! We human, underestimate the importance and capability of life and try to alter the natural standards by setting standards, creating paths, monitoring speed, measuring progress and rewarding outcomes! And anxiety, depression, ocd are all byproducts of our acts that take us … Continue reading

Slowly learning and adopting to online interfaces in the counseling/training context! This is something I would never have done in my entire life if there was no pandemic! Living and evolving is all about adapting to changes! Studied in biology and now seeing practically!