Sita and Geeta: (They are imaginary characters in my story. I created these characters by merging stories and qualities of many characters including clients, relatives, friends, etc., that I have seen in my life. These characters do not represent any single individual) Seeta and Geeta are housewives. They feel disappointed about their life. They find … Continue reading Breaking the infinite loop: Its the person, but not situations!
How to Choose a Right Career?
A right career is the one that satisfies ALL four of the following criteria. If a option satisfies only 1 or 2 or 3 of the following criteria, then that means, it is not a good enough option for you to choose it as your career. Criteria 1: The option that you like should be … Continue reading How to Choose a Right Career?
The Psychologist’s Love Letter…
Baby, You are my life purpose... You are my well being... You are my quality of life... Without you, my life is like trauma, and With you, its like dream that has no interpretation!👀 After falling in love, I started seeing you in hallucinations!🫠I see your face even in the Rorschach ink blot🌊 If … Continue reading The Psychologist’s Love Letter…
Denial is bliss? But…
Denial is bliss, it helps us in being stable, it protects us from experiencing pain (atleast at superficial level), but... Denial is bliss only till a point where something adverse happens! Example, a person is ignoring that his room is on fire. He is happily watching TV show. Suddenly when he starts burning, his TV … Continue reading Denial is bliss? But…
Sometimes its better to dominate!
Sometimes its better to dominate, fight, drag, win or loose fight, giveup or get dissatisfied than setting up a boundary that prevents conflict! Boundary not only prevents conflict, but also prevents establishment of relationship! provided there is no toxicity Setting boundary is a good process when there is toxicity. Infact its the only way !
Luck vs Bad Luck
For example, when a person meets with accident, if only minor injuries happen, he can view entire situation in two ways. One is optimistic way, I am lucky and so I am alive. Two is pessimistic way - I am unlucky and I met with accident. In both the cases, he is not trying to … Continue reading Luck vs Bad Luck
Time never heals ! But time reveals ! -K L Niharika
Healthy Planning vs Unhealthy Planning
I have seen many people staying motivated and organized with help of plans. I also have seen negative shade of planning. People with one type of OCD tend to make plans and overthink about them. I see a clear demarcation. Healthy plans that reduce stress are the plans made by considering measurable and certain factors. … Continue reading Healthy Planning vs Unhealthy Planning
Helping process is easy only when we allow someone to do their part in recieving help!
Yesterday, a small incident happened at my home that inspired me to make this post. A butterfly got stuck in our room and my husband tried to help it. When he tried to hold it, it started resisting and hiding. He couldnt free the butterfly. Then he started using lights to direct it. He switched … Continue reading Helping process is easy only when we allow someone to do their part in recieving help!
Happy Teachers Day to all the Teachers who never troubled students!
Teachers get respect and especially in India, students treat teachers like GOD. However, all teachers doesn’t deserve respect and value. Lets talk about the dark side of the story! Childhood of many people is not as rosy as they think. The ones who work on themself only knows what their Childhood is! Most of the … Continue reading Happy Teachers Day to all the Teachers who never troubled students!
K L Niharika 