| I have my own set of values, morals and ethics. I formed them based on my own experiences and knowledge | I often listen to my family members, tries to fulfill demands and live upto standards of society |
| I can make my own decisions. I do not need anyone’s approval or validation | I cannot take decisions on my own. I question my own decisions after listening to others comments |
| I do not worry about things that happened in past. I do not fear about future. I concentrate on present | I keep regretting about things that I did in past and fear about things that might happen in future |
| If I get a problem, I will try to solve it. I am open to seek help from others if needed. | If I get trouble, I will regret and worry about it. I blame others, but cant take help. |
| I understand that I am unique. In some parameters may be I am better than others. In some, may be others are better than me. But everyone, including me is equally valuable/worthy. | I try to compete with others, and become like them. Or else I try to convince myself that there are no subjective differences between us because I cannot tolerate some being better than others. |
| I believe in people around me and how valuable I am to them. Even there are issues, I feel secure about relations. | I can’t trust people. I don’t believe people when they say I am important to them. I keep assessing them. I feel insecure about relation. |
| I can say no. I don’t feel obligated in doing anything. I do things that can add meaning to my life. I enjoy activities that I do. | Others control my actions. I cannot say no. I feel obligated when someone asks me to do something. I don’t enjoy while doing it. |
| I do not violate rights of others. I give value to their opinions and emotions. I don’t try to gain something at cost of taking away something from others (that purely belongs to them). | I try to push people and make them accept my opinions and emotions. I want my things at any cost. In that process, I don’t care even if I am not protecting rights of others. |
| I believe that every human is valuable irrespective of what they do in life or what they possess | I believe that value of human depends on things and qualifications that he obtains in his life. |
| I like myself. If I do a mistake, I forgive myself. I feel that not being perfect is a human nature. | I cannot take criticism. I hate myself when I do something wrong and scold myself. |
| I can handle negative emotions of people. I don’t change myself to satisfy others. I understand that it is natural that everyone will not like everything I do. | I please people. I can’t accept when they don’t like something that I do. I will try to influence their emotions and make them agree with me. |
| According to me, world is a nice place. There is lots of scope for me. | I see world as horrible place where there are no opportunities |
K L Niharika 