Imagine someone did something unfair to us. Unfair act could include anything that hurts, like violence, humiliation, bullying, strict parenting, etc. We loose trust in ourself and seek approval from others. That means, we are not trusting the victim, but we are trusting the people who are actually responsible for victims pain! Are we giving fair treatment to ourself? They caused pain to us once. We have learned from them and causing pain to ourself every second. Can we unlearn the behaviour and show some empathy on ourself?